Sexual Abuse:

Sexual abuse is any non-consenting sexual act or behavior.
Examples include your partner forcing sexual activity when:

• you indicate "no" and your limits are not respected
• you are sleeping
• you are drunk or high and are unable to say "no"
• you are afraid to say "no"

or when your partner:

• insists that you dress in a more sexual way than you wish to dress
• makes demeaning remarks about how you dress
• makes demeaning remarks about your body and/or body parts
• minimizes your feelings about sex
• berates you about your sexual history; blames you if you were sexually abused in the past or as a child
• criticizes you sexually (calling you "frigid," for example)
• insists on touching you sexually when you do not want to be touched, either when the two of you are alone or in the presence of others
• calls you a whore or a slut
• has affairs with other women (often flaunting them) after agreeing not to have sex with anyone but you
• physically attacking sexual parts of your body, (grabbing your breast, pinching your buttocks, any touch that is unwanted)
• forcing you to perform any specific sexual act that you do not wish to do (for example: oral sex, or acting out pornography)

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